Finally official!

Thank you GOD, we are finally officially getting married.

See, up until this point it was all just a “notion” - the big wedding day.  There was a party, there was a dress, there was a cake –  there was no one to actually marry us.

This was a slight problem.

We had the priest we wanted to do it, although he could not do the ceremony outside due to stupid laws in the Catholic Church - and no, I won’t go there - but needless to say it just reaffirms my thoughts on the subject.   Then, even though I was pretty against this from the beginning, we tried to get married at a nearby church in RI - but even that wouldn’t work and the people there were being absolutely less than accommodating.  Again, making these choices so much easier.  There were even talks of getting married beforehand, like days or a week ahead of time, in NJ - and then going up to RI and FAKING IT.  Needless to say, I was against that option too.  See, for me - this wedding is for me and D, and the party and the dress and the big to-do is mainly for everyone else to enjoy the day  [not saying that I won't] but the whole point is to actually get married. Be legal.   So we squashed those ideas.  Besides, when would we celebrate our anniversary?  I couldn’t bear the idea of having Aug 25 be my “real” anniversary and have every memento say “Aug 31″.   Just wasn’t cutting it.

Finally, after realizing that if we didn’t get our act together, none of the stuff that was going to have to start being done could actually get done.  You know, small stuff — LIKE INVITATIONS!!!!  I mean, if we’re not technically getting married, how can we make invitations??

So I did some digging, and there were a few people available to be an officiant.  Friday night D & I called after work and talked to the one guy for an hour!  He was so nice, warm, funny, and explanatory - which was good, considering I had no idea what we were supposed to talk about.  It’s hard doing this stuff from far away and not being able to say “Hey let’s meet on Monday night” - instead a speaker phone cell phone call was the best we could do.  But we really liked him, his price was reasonable, his wife is his wedding coordinator, and we just had good feelings overall.   We booked him, and I sent the deposit check on Saturday morning. 

So it’s official!!  All times, dates, and appointments stay the same!  I don’t have to freak out anymore!  YAY!

Now when we go up to RI in June to get our marriage license and get our rings we will try to make a date to meet up with him, just to meet him in person before the actual ceremony day [we're not doing an actual rehearsal because he is booked, and we have such a small wedding party.  OH, and our place is booked for the 2 days before the wedding, so there's that.]

Phew.  Now I can move on to the bigger, more important stuff and the smaller less important stuff - knowing that for real, we are officially getting married!  Yes!!

And yikes… I have SO MUCH TO DO!!!!!!!!

 

May 12th:
I am grateful that I still have 5 more nights with D before he leaves me for a week…… AGAIN.   ugh. travel.